Tuesday, February 23, 2016

2016 We are ready for ya!

The Esther Project Part 6

I forgot to mention posture in part 5, but having good posture is very important. You look good and benefit from proper intake of oxygen etc. So stand up and sit up strait! When you walk by a window you can quickly check your posture or make a deal with a friend who can signal you if they see you slouching.

Sweet Spirit:
Of the two times my husband has picked out lipstick, he inadvertently came home with the EXACT same brand and color. The first time we were in the San Juans, and I was getting ready for my sisters wedding but had forgotten to pack lipstick. I was working on putting her bouquet together so he headed out for some lipstick. (I know, he is amazing.) The second time, maybe a year later, he was at the store with our daughter, Rebekah, and helped her pick out a lipstick. No, this is not a normal errand he runs!

Do you think I got the message? I'm wearing THAT color!
Pay attention to what your man likes. Tune your spirit to pick up on those little things.

Eph. 5:2
"And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma."
Phil. 4:18
"Indeed I have all and abound. I am full, having received from Epaphroditus the things sent from you, a sweet-smelling aroma, an acceptable sacrifice, well pleasing to God."

Physical Care: A Perfume tutorial!
Somewhere around the 1950's, perfumes that used to be made with true essential oils began to be made synthetically in the lab. Does it seem to you that more and more people complain of cologne giving them headaches and breathing problems? I don't personally suffer from that and enjoy a good cologne, however, I know quite a few people that I can't wear it around. However, making your own scent is actually quite easy, less expensive, and certainly more healthy and beneficial than what you can find in a department store! I will add, I try to not wear even my healthy scents in a crowded place, like choir practice, IF I know someone there that is sensitive. If you've ever had an asthma attack and felt like you couldn't breathe, it is pretty traumatic. An asthmatic person can feel constricted even if they just begin to worry that they are going to struggle with breathing!

First of all, there are some basic aroma categories:
Citrus, earthy, floral, herbal, minty, spicy, and woody. And camphorus- like tea tree.

Citrus blends well together with spicy and floral notes except for neroli.
Earthy blends well with each other and minty oils.
Floral blends well with each other and spicy, citrus, and woody.
Herbal blends with each other and minty.
Minty blend well with woody and herbal, but also with some floral like lavender and some citrus like lemon.
Spicy blend well with each other and with floral and citrus. Don't use more than 2 spicy oils in a blend. Try ginger and nutmeg together.
Woody blends well with all.

Secondly, You want a top note, middle note, base note.
Top notes should make up the bulk of the blend. Middle notes about fifty percent of overall number of drops and then only a drop or two of the base note.

Here is an example of how to choose a great blend of aromatherapy perfume:
I want an uplifting blend, that provides some balance of my emotions. I am also feeling a little worn out. My choice:

4 drops of orange essential oil - for its uplifting properties. It is also a top note so I use more drops.
2 drops of lavender essential oil - for its balancing properties. It is a middle note so I use less.
1 drop of cinnamon essential oil - for its grounding properties. It is also excellent for feelings of exhaustion. Being a base note, one drop is all you need. Cinnamon is possibly a spicy or hot oil, so use plenty of carrier oil and try on a small area first.
Aromatherapy perfume blends must be mixed with a carrier oil!

Examples of top note oils are:

 Examples of middle note oils are:
    Tea Tree

 Examples of base note oils are:
This is just a quick list. I have a more extensive list available.

Once assembled the mixture needs to "marry" (Isn't that cool?) for a couple weeks. Simply give the bottle a little shake every few days.
When you put it on, you will notice the top notes first and even if you don't like the most noticeable scent, at first, remember that it is the base note that is more the final scent.

Exotic Perfume for Her:
2 drops jasmine
10drops coriander
12 drops bergamot
5 drops rose
8 drops neroli
1 drop elemi or myrrh (fixative)
5 ml carrier oil (V-6 or sweet almond oil)
Store in glass in a dark place for 2 weeks. The rose oil is impossibly expensive. You can leave it out or try lavender or ylang ylang. Whatever.

Fav. Pastor Number 7 (I made this special for my hubby and we really like it)
4 drops bergamot
5 drops sandalwood
2 drops cedar wood
1 drop lavender
1 drop spikenard
2 pumps sweet almond oil or jojoba oil

These plants: balsam, bay laurel, pine, fir, and juniper, and their extracted essential oils, were used in massages or other therapeutic practices back in the day. When baths were not available, ancient Romans used scented olive oils to clean their bodies, applying them to the skin and then scraping them off with an instrument called a strigil.
Israelites used essential oils such as frankincense, cedarwood, hyssop, fir, and spikenard to heal wounds and elevate spiritual communion.The most famous example of the value that essential oils had in Israelite culture is in the telling of the birth of Jesus, to whom gifts were given of gold, frankincense, and myrrh. You can read more in the book "Healing Oils of the Bible". It is not only an interesting book, though sometimes a bit far-fetched, but I believe that learning as much as we can about natural things available to us for promoting health is going to be absolutely crucial as our nation becomes socialist. We are already experiencing difficulties.

Finish memorizing Prov. 31:10-31 and say it to someone!
From these six posts, realistically, you may land on just a handful of things that you want to try over the next months as you prepare for marriage. I understand that. If you end up investing in any EOs, don't forget that they each have many many uses.
Thank you for following along with me in this. I hope, at the very least, that you learned something about being a Godly wife. I do have post  #7 available upon request :)
Blessings, Carol

Diy mouthwash
Place 2 cups water into quart jar.
Add 1 Tablespoon baking soda
Add 10 drops each of thieves and peppermint eo
This is so easy, inexpensive and should be whitening. You could also use orange

Saturday, February 20, 2016

The Esther Project Part 5

What to wear, what to wear:
How is your wardrobe looking? Are the wedding and bridesmaid dresses you've been looking at the type that put others at ease?  We've been told a lie. It is that "It's YOUR day." That is not true. A wedding is God's symbol. How you plan it will, either bring glory to God or, bring attention to yourself or your maids. (The guys are always well covered!) I am pretty passionate about modesty in this day and age. You can read a previous post I have called "Confessions of a Closet Conservative". Now, before you get your back up, it is just an old post!
By now, though, hopefully, you have done some soul searching and it is the Lord that knows your heart. I certainly don't. I can't tell you what to wear, that is something you need to work out with the Lord and your parents even. Then, it will be your husband's responsibility. Now, that may shock you, but, as a guy, he can really help you to dress in a nice way that doesn't draw attention to parts of you that are only for him. That is, as long as he isn't a King Ahasuerus who wanted to flaunt his wife.
How you dress and how you carry yourself will speak volumes as to your faithfulness to him.

Sweet Spirt:
If you want to be honest and check your motives behind your dress, consider this: Is the main attention of your appearance your sweet, cheerful countenance? I'm not saying that you should dress "blah" because that is simply not necessary. I'm saying that there is a gleam and light to share that radiates from your face!
Prov. 15:13
"A merry heart makes a cheerful countenance,
But by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken."
 1 Tim. 2:9-11 "in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works."
"As a ring of gold in a swine's snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion."

Physical Care:
Exercise is really important and a great habit to be formed while you are young. Many young people and newly weds, though, don't have extra money for a gym membership or space for equipment at home. Here in Washington, the weather makes it difficult to get outside! But, don't give up. Our society has made it too complicated. There are simple ways to get a work-out without any expensive/ bulky accessories. It's not complicated. And- bonus!! Mopping the floor and scrubbing the tub is calling on a lot of muscles too. You just need something DOABLE.


I'll admit to you right now that nobody in my house wants to use my homemade deodorant. I know. Sad. But, if you want to try some, this is really inexpensive and it works for me.
Homemade All Natural Deodorant:
Makes enough for one average-sized deodorant roll-up container.
1 heaping T. beeswax pellets
2 1/2 - 3 T. coconut oil ( probably go with the 3 T.)
1/8 C. arrowroot powder
1/8 C. baking soda (aluminum free)
2 drops castor oil
2 drops vitamin E
24 drops of therapeutic grade essential oil of your choice (recommendations below)
The selections are endless. You could choose just single oils (lavender, lemon, melaleuca, sandalwood, frankincense, etc.) or Young Living has a number of blends that are perfect for a good deodorant (Thieves, Purification, Citrus Fresh, Three Wise Men, Joy, Harmony, Sensation etc.).
If you want to get creative, you could try to blend a few complementary oils together yourself. Here are a few examples:

English Garden:
9 drops lavender
9 drops ylang ylang drops
2 geranium

Morning Breeze
15 drops Rosemary
6 drops peppermint
4 drops lavender
Other good oils choices: Frankincense, Lime, Lemongrass, Citrus Fresh, Rosemary, Valor, Bergamot, Geranium

Perhaps Esther used something like this recipe to refresh her face after a brisk promenade about the beautiful gardens of the Persian palace.
Hydrating beauty mist:
1/2 cup distilled or reverse osmosis water
1/2 teaspoon vegetable glycerine
8 drops ylang ylang
2 drops chamomile
1 drop myrrh
1 drop frankincense
1 drop jasmine (optional)

I will give you a couple hints as to modest dress. If you often have to tug it UP or DOWN, consider wearing something else outside of the house. Later, as a new mom, your kiddo is going to start pulling on your clothes too. You will also be bending down to reach stuff a lot and picking things up off the floor. Please, don't let everything hang out or hike up.
 You want to have an attitude of putting others at ease. You can loose friends over dressing immodestly. After all, not all of your friends are married to men that control their eyes. I'm sorry, but this is true- I have witnessed it. I also found out, much to my surprise, that you can loose friends over being too Modest! I can't understand it, but for some women who are either feeling convicted about their own motives behind their wardrobe choices, or their feeling that they have to be always alluring in order to keep their own man, your dressing from head to toe could make someone mad at you. Now, we are not here to please others, but only to please God. Seek Him in this and see if you can't find a way to dress modestly without going way overboard. That attitude speaks of selflessness and will keep ministry opportunities wide open to you so that you can be a servant of the Lord.

Friday, February 19, 2016

Esther and the Dragon (or Part 4)

I'm guessing that Hegai knew just about everything there was to know about the women he was in charge of. I have this picture in my mind of his massive spread sheet scroll of papyrus with drop down menus showing him which ladies could go to the king and when. I wouldn't have wanted to hang with some of those women long term, but maybe they were just given an extra serving of poppy seeds on their salad at certain times of the month. Fortunately, you can just track certain things for YOURSELF.

Sweet Spirit:
You should take notes of your mental state and cycle throughout the next few months, if you don't already, and look into getting a tranquilizer if it is real bad. JUST KIDDING! Seriously though, you may see a pattern and be able to lean on God even more for right responses when you aren't at your best. Remember that He is pleased with a gentle, quiet spirit and that you are to do good to your man "all the days of his life". (and you don't want your family to be TOO happy to have this guy take you off their hands.)

Each and every day,  listen to what you are saying and the TONE you are using. Probably, you are still on your best behavior around your intended. So, listen carefully to see when, and if, you tend to snap or vent a lot around those you've been around for years. I am talking about your irritating, immature brother, a parent that you clash with, or your college roommate. Maybe you just hide for a few days. You can't do that with a family.

Guard your mouth.
"Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles."
"Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips."
You don't want to damage your relationship with your beloved in the first and hardest years of marriage, so correct yourself now, with God's help, and check in and be honest with your mentor.

Guard your heart.
Sometimes we allow things to fester in our hearts. This allows a root of bitterness to begin its hold on you. I had a dear friend ask me once, when I was fussing to her about something, "Are you bitter?" She stopped me in my tracks and caught my attention. It was the best thing for me and I had to be honest. I was headed down the wrong road. Bitterness is like taking poison and hoping the other person gets sick. And, if you hold bitterness towards ANYONE, it will affect your marriage!
Or maybe worry keeps you awake at nights or clouds your decisions.Try to take your thoughts captive and use those tendencies as a call towards prayer over the person or situation.
Phil. 4:6-8
"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things."

Physical Care:
Women can be different almost every week it seems. Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde only worse! Study up on the different hormones. They are useful things! They are needful and part of God's amazing design.
My husband once picked up a set of mugs. Each had a picture on it. A dragon, a bear, a tiger, and an elephant. I was mad because we didn't need any more mugs! Who buys themselves a mug? Well, he waited a couple weeks, made coffee, and then handed me the tiger mug with a wink. Um. Now I get the hint when he hands me the dragon etc. It's funny to me, now, that he pays attention to which week I'm in.
Many factors come into play where your hormones are concerned-even environmental things. They are easily thrown out of kilter, but knowledge and education can help bring things back into balance (as can getting some "boy germs" eventually- trying to keep things light here.) Diet and exercise play an important role too. It's possible that you may need a professional to measure your levels, but know that not every doctor is up on women's issues. Look around for the right one.

Pay attention to your cycle but do not blame it for your sin. If you suffer at times because of it, learn to lighten your schedule if you can, but trust also, that God knows about it too.

An example in Scripture of a woman using her cycle for deceit:
Gen. 31:34-35
"Now Rachel had taken the household idols, put them in the camel's saddle, and sat on them. And Laban searched all about the tent but did not find them. And she said to her father, “Let it not displease my lord that I cannot rise before you, for the manner of women is with me."
People have found help through natural means, whether herbs or EOs. Vitex or chaste tree herbal extract has been known to alleviate PMS or ease the second half of the monthly cycle. It addresses both progesterone and estrogen which many prescriptions fail miserably to do. You do need to be diligent, however, in its use.

Progessence Plus serum, Dragon Time, Endoflex, and Lady Sclereol are YL blends designed specifically for women. Lavender is a great single. Applications vary.
Here is a blend you may find relief with:15 drops peppermint,10 drops orange, 5 drops lavender,1 oz. sweet almond oil.
Mix together in an amber glass bottle and massage small amount on abdomen, head, and low back. I have also heard ylang ylang with peppermint layered over the top works. The key is to  use just a little but apply often.
You do not want to depend completely on over-the-counter drugs for PMS because they have diminishing effects and are hard on your liver.

As you continue to grow in the Lord and grow in your relationship with your future husband, you may not be able to see how you are changing. But, rest assured, if you are in the Word and actively asking Him for wisdom, you will be steadily becoming a godly woman that brings honor to God and your family. I remember a few ladies at church commenting to me after I had been married a few months that they had seen a real transformation in me. Well, I had gotten serious about the Lord and had been faithfully in the Word and memorizing scripture! I had no idea that other people would notice a change.
Keep working on memorizing Prov. 31:10-31
Prov. 31:25-26
"Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness."

Just for fun:
My Fair Lady: "Why can't a woman be more like a man"

I recommend buying the book "Taming the Inner Dragon Within" by Dr Deardeuff. You can get it for $9 from Life Science Publishers. In fact, I can order it for you. Its a great reference book for anything related to female hormones and how to support them naturally with oils and supplements.

Backache fighting blend:
8 drops cinnamon oil
6 drops roman chamomile oil
4 drops ginger oil
1 T. Almond oil sweet
Mix and massage into back

http://ylsearch.com/   Is a great place to hunt around for ways to support your health needs naturally. Let me know if you are thinking about accessing YL oils at wholesale.